“Control your own destiny or someone else will.” Jack Welch
Do you feel that you are in control of your life? If not, then something is wrong. You are an individual and have every right to live your life in accord with your beliefs, goals and ideals. If you are being pulled in a direction you do not want to go then you may need to decide it is time to cut ties to that force that is doing the pulling. At the end of the day, month, year and life you should be able to say, "I did it!” Whatever that "it" is SHOULD be your decision or your destiny - so control it!